Life Plans

by Elena on March 17, 2011 in Uncategorized

I have been thinking alot about life plans lately. Maybe I have been sparked by Principessa who seems to believe that if she can envision it, it will come true. Maybe it is the fact that I am about to embark on an exciting new project (details to come soon) that was so surprising, it has taken me a day or two to let it actually sink in.  Whatever the reason, it occurs to me that we make plans for our life. We plan careers, family, vacations, and more. And sometimes those plans turn out the way you intended. But many times, life takes a detour.  The highway of day to day choices leads you down one exit, and then another, and then another, and all of a sudden, you are driving down a road in a foreign country.

I have taken alot of detours in life.

It started in college:

I studied international affairs with a focus on Russian studies. I wanted to do public relations and be an international business women. I graduated early….because I could….and moved (back) to Italy.  But then moved back to the US after a year because of a boy. Instead of international business, I went to work in a preschool. Can we say different?

Then came post college:

I was engaged. To be married.  As in, to a man other than Rocket.  Then I got sick.  No more engagement. Instead I went to graduate school to become a teacher. (woo hoo for following on at least one path…I really am a teacher now!)

My early 30’s followed the same pattern:

I trained for a marathon.  Met Principessa’s dad during the training. Got married.  Getting a divorce only a few years later, pretty much not what I thought was going to happen.

And now…

I apparently got off at the right exit though, because getting remarried to Rocket is one road that I hope to be on for a VERY long time. But really…me, married to an aerospace engineer that LOVES math and science? Not exactly what my political science and humanities background trained me for.  Not to mention the fact that I met my handsome hubby on J-Date.  Online dating…about as foreign to me as calculus.

Even blogging is a bit of a detour.  It certainly was not something that I planned for. I can’t really remember what life was like before it (which is just possibly a little scary since I have only been at it for just under two years).  I sometimes even catch myself wishing that writing was something I could devote more time to, as in, in lieu of teaching.

I suppose that the reality is that we adapt. Every single choice we make each day has consequences, and even the smallest of decisions can eventually lead to an unknown destination.  In some respects, the idea that life plans change is exciting. On other ways, terrifying.

So for now, I live. I make my choices. I wonder what the future will hold.  I pretend that I have control over things that in truth, I know are no more in my control than the traffic.  So I hope. I hope to find shortcuts around the detours that are long and to enjoy the scenic overlooks on the detours that lead me to new discoveries.



This post was inspired by this week’s Red Writing Hood assignment: to write – fiction or non-fiction – about a time when you took a detour. Where had you intended to go and where did you end up?

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Jessica March 17, 2011 at 9:39 pm

So glad you have been able to adapt and go with the flow of all of the things that life has put before you. What a journey you have been on.

C.Mom March 17, 2011 at 9:51 pm

The truth is that I don’t regret one single thing. I feel like everything has a purpose- even if it comes in the form of a detour. Hugs!

Jackie March 17, 2011 at 10:04 pm

I think that life is full of detours, shortcuts, and long roads. But if we’re patient we will get to where we are meant to be.

It sounds as if you’ve found the right path!

I think that you’ve done very well with the prompt too.

Galit Breen March 18, 2011 at 6:39 am

I love all of life’s twists and turns and surprises! You’ve taken your path and ended up right where you’re supposed to be.

I’m such a big believer in all parts of our life being stepping stones into the others, you know? You had to go through the detours to get to your now.

As scary and wonderful as it may be! :)

C.Mom March 18, 2011 at 2:05 pm


cristina March 18, 2011 at 7:46 am

sometimes, the unplanned detours are what make life interesting, right? great job with the prompt… stopping by from TRDC

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm March 18, 2011 at 8:03 am

Many times detours prove to be the best route.

C.Mom March 18, 2011 at 2:04 pm

I couldn’t agree more!

Pamela Gold March 18, 2011 at 11:37 am

That last paragraph wrapped around me like a huge bear hug!

C.Mom March 18, 2011 at 2:04 pm

Thanks friend. :) I needed to hear that. I was not sure if there was enough voice,emotion, spark in this one. Xo

Mrs. Jen B March 18, 2011 at 12:55 pm

There’s a saying my husband repeats from time to time, and I know I’m not getting it exactly right, but it’s something like “You want to make God laugh? Tell Him you’re made a plan for your life”. It looks like so many of us have been through it!

Shorty March 18, 2011 at 1:37 pm

As they say, Man plans, G-d laughs.

I am finding it interesing that in a lot of these posts, much of these detours seem very meant to be. Its nice :)

C.Mom March 18, 2011 at 2:06 pm

I am very much looking forward to reading everyone’s post this evening!

Lizz March 18, 2011 at 8:45 pm

Yup, sometimes the detours are what make like worth living, dontcha think?

Elizabeth Flora Ross March 18, 2011 at 9:31 pm

OK, you lost. All I could think about the whole time was your exciting new project. 😉 Can’t wait to hear more. Oh, and I was engaged to a man other than my husband once, too. So very glad my life took a different path. Detours can be a good thing!

Elizabeth Flora Ross March 18, 2011 at 9:31 pm

I meant to say you lost me. LOL

AmyBeth Inverness March 18, 2011 at 11:10 pm

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” John Lennon
I also love the quote about God laughing at our human plans.

Good memories!

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